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Oh Say Is That My Photographer?

Posted by AAWO on May 1, 2009

On the photographer front I must make some personal observations having worked with hundreds of them…There are nice ones and well….

GET RECOMMENDATIONS FROM THE BRIDES THEMSELVES. Ask for 3 of their latest brides and ask for their phone numbers.

You will not believe how condescending some “artist”/people can be. Bottom line is apparently some vendors don’t realize we all breathe the same air! What you don’t want is someone who barely communicates and then on your big day they become brusque and demanding. There is never a reason for vendors to be curt.

If they can not communicate in a light hearted manner with you before you get married…On the day of…??? Forget it…they will be ogres and ruin your day. Trust me…I’ve seen the good…the bad and the ugly. L

Ask for a detailed list of the shots they intend to get. Don’t let them tell you the list. Ask for the list on paper. Then ask, if when they are shooting,…if they will do extra shots that you come up with…impromptu’s…say like 5-10 extra special shots….(like you girls are all dressed up goofing around and decide…hey…let’s all pretend we’re…whatever….)

Don’t get me wrong…there are some incredibly awesome, wonderful photographers out there…and I mean super people…I am just zeroing in on the bad apples here…the ones I don’t want you to get stuck with….So I am showing you how to circumvent them. 🙂

You should be able to communicate with them…as easily as you communicate with your best friend. You should feel comfortable…relaxed and not feel pressure or scared about asking anything. And if you do feel any of the above…just keep on looking. Because in the end…we all want you to be the happy bride!!! 🙂

Submitted by Marie Tyler Wiley
A CT Justice of the Peace


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Wedding Ways to Be Eco-Friendly

Posted by AAWO on April 16, 2009

Are you concerned about the carbon imprint your special day will leave upon this earth? Leaving your wedding guests with a beautiful and memorable ceremony and reception doesn’t mean you can’t go green! Use the following tips to reduce, reuse and recycle your wedding.

Save the Date cards, Invitations and Programs

Purchase recycled paper to print your invitations and programs on or purchase them from someone who does use recycled paper. Send your invitations in a picture attachment to emails when you can. Explain why you are doing this to avoid hurt feelings. (Not only will this save paper, but postage costs and the fuel used to transport mailings). Establish a wedding website (most are free) and communicate though that with your wedding party and for RSVP’s from invited guests.

Your Dress

Your mom, grandma, aunt or even that vintage or charity shop downtown may have the perfect dress at little or no cost. Even if it’s not exactly your style, it can be taken to a dressmaker to change it to suit your personality. Renting a dress has become a more popular option now, as well. Why not? We ask our men to do this, and really, are you going to wear it again? You can get a lot more expensive dress by renting, too. Also, look into purchasing or having one made from sustainable fabrics. Lastly, be good to your wedding party and have them help in the selection of their dresses. They need something they will wear again, or even let them select from their own closet, if feasible.

Your Venue and Caterer

Ask them (and all vendors) what they are doing to minimize waste, conserve water and reduce energy use. Are they recycling? Do they use LED lighting? Can you use the same location for both the ceremony and reception? This reduces your costs, and cuts down on transportation waste. Is your caterer using food from local markets to reduce carbon emissions? Do they use food that is organic, pesticide-free, or cage-free? Ask the cake decorator if they use fair trade sugar and dried fruits. Even if the vendor isn’t doing much now, you could get them thinking. Rent as many things as you can, including linens, silverware, table service, aisle runner and centerpieces.

Flowers and Décor

Using potted plants as your centerpieces are not only lovely, but can be replanted. Find ways to use them for both the ceremony and reception. Choose local, seasonal flowers and let guests take them home. Tree seedlings are a better choice for table favors and can be replanted to replenish oxygen to the atmosphere. As the tree grows in their yard, they will think of your special day!

The Honeymoon

Try a Bed and Breakfast nearby. You’ll feel like you “got away” without the hotel and airfare price. Try taking the train to your destination, too. It’s a great way to connect on your way to the destination and cuts carbon emissions, as well.
Bravo Bride

Buy never used and slightly used items for your wedding at It’s like Ebay, but for your wedding. You can then earn some of your expenses back after the wedding by selling your items you no longer want or need.

These are only a few ways to be greener at your nuptials. Keep thinking “outside the box” and I’m sure you’ll find more.

Submitted by Rev. Carleen Burns

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