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The DIY Trend

Posted by AAWO on April 12, 2009

copy-of-ajg_12561Who doesn’t want to save money on their wedding? Unless your name is Trump, Rockefeller or Hilton, you probably do. But is cutting corners the wisest way to go? In this economy DIY is the only way many couples can afford to even get close to their dream wedding. Let’s face it, weddings are expensive!

I think that it’s a personal choice per couple. If going this route, each couple needs to decide which things are the most important to them and spend the larger parts of their budget there. Anything that they are going to try on their own should only be attempted if it won’t “crush them” if it doesn’t go as planned, or if they have a KNOWLEDGEABLE family or friend member willing to help.

Ask to see examples of their work to be certain they are going to do things your way. If you don’t like how they do it, you aren’t locked in. Deciding to go with a professional will save you heartache, because it can’t be redone. However, if Aunt Paula is awesome at cake making and wants to help, by all means, take advantage of that opportunity!

I hear horror stories about couples that tried to save money by having a friend ordained online to marry them. This is fine if your friend is a great public speaker and writer, with some knowledge of how to put a ceremony together. However, I have bailed out a couple that had the person back out a month before the wedding with nothing done; and heard about the cousin that had a “couple of nerve calmers” before the ceremony and had to leave during the service for a minute to use the facilities!

If you want something done right you have to do it yourself. This belief leads people to hold on to too much. Unfortunately, people who cling to this belief often become an organizational bottleneck. Everything has to be done by, or through, them. It is hard for some brides to emotionally detatch themselves from every aspect of their wedding, so they decide to take care of it all. Those are the ones that end up extremely stressed out, things don’t turn out the way they wanted, and ultimately they didn’t enjoy their wedding day.

I think every aspect of the wedding can be a DIY, but not every aspect for every wedding.

Submitted by Rev. Carleen Burns


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Jumping the Broom

Posted by AAWO on April 2, 2009

“Jumping the Broom” at a wedding is a custom that has lost its origin but adopted widely in England and the USA.

It is believed to be from a West African practice brought by slaves to the southern United States but adopted by many local people who could not find or afford a civil or religious celebrant of marriage.   Some think the Roma culture also had a similar tradition along with some Celtic tribes.

From where ever it came, it is now part of our wedding ceremony traditions and incorporated in marriage ceremonies in many places. Couples like to vary what is said and done at their wedding,  whether it be a special ceremony like giving a rose to mothers, a “Unity Candle”,  or a wine ceremony.

Using a decorated broom to jump just for the fun of doing a different tradition during the service has caught on locally. I have used it in many informal weddings I have done over the past 18 years as a wedding officiant and each time it gets a laugh from the people watching.  It is said who jumps the highest is the head of the new household but a man in slacks has the advantage.   Some couples like to decorate the broom in meaningful colors or flowers and may include a story about who will be in charge of the broom after the wedding.

Adding interesting elements to a wedding ceremony makes it a little more special for the occasion.

Submitted by Chaplain Jerry Schwehm

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Posted by aawo on April 2, 2009


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